Q. “Mom and dad need more day-to-day help.”
“They say they don’t want to be a burden, so they don’t tell us what’s really going on. They say they don’t need our help, so they try to do things, themselves. They say they don’t want strangers in their home. They worry about the costs.”
Questions to ask yourself
- What am I/we worried about?
- Do they want or need help, and what kind?
- Who can help, and in what ways?
- How can we make it happen?
Helpful Tips: Discuss the situation and tell them what you’re worried about. For example, “I’m concerned about you falling down the stairs.” or “We worry it’s getting difficult to cook for yourself, or remember to take your medications.” Take some time to write down what you’re worried about. Set aside some time to discuss this with them, and then listen to them, really listen and try to understand their perspective.